This has been a pet peeve of mine for a long time and the only people who seem to get ungodly bent over hearing the phrase “I don’t have time” are those who make a living from doing something that requires you to focus on them (we call them the “me-me’s = IT’S ALL ABOUT ME”) or have made a lifestyle change they want everyone to follow along and justify their new found obsession.
I’m here to tell you right now that it’s OK to say you don’t have time.
Take a deep breath.
All of us have the same 24 hours to our day (unless you have a Delorian time machine or TARDIS but if you did this would be a non issue) but the fact which escapes the loudest advocates is every single one of you have different responsibilities and priorities.
Yes, you could simply “make time” but reality is what they want you to do isn’t as important to you as it is to them. It’s a polite way of saying “I’m not interested.”. On the list of things you have to prioritize in a day, the value that person is providing is low compared to others. Also, your reason for saying it in the first place is a personal decision. You don’t need to explain yourself, just smile and walk away. Feel free to think “Man, what a jagoff!” in the process too.
Look, I get it, you can make changes and great for you. No one should criticize your decision to try something new but before you say “Don’t tell me you don’t have time. That’s lazy.” take a good look at that person and see if it’s lazy or maybe they need some help. Life is freaking rough these days and I can say as a working parent who has to be in the zone from the time I wake up until I go to bed while dealing with the daily beat down as a person working in social media, the last thing we need is someone else telling us what we SHOULD do.
I would love to go to more beer fests, go to the movies, take time to read books, go out for drinks, spend time at a show or join that workout class with you but after juggling my schedule along with the kids and spending quality not-tethered-to-my-phone time with them, which are top priorities in my life, I really don’t have time.
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