Comments on: Why my kid doesn’t need a blog… yet http://www.douglasderda.com/blog/2009/01/12/why-my-kid-doesnt-need-a-blog-yet Lift up the receiver, I'll make you a believer. Mon, 08 Mar 2010 15:29:48 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 By: Content, Choice, Future. « thirty seven roses http://www.douglasderda.com/blog/2009/01/12/why-my-kid-doesnt-need-a-blog-yet/comment-page-1#comment-7510 Content, Choice, Future. « thirty seven roses Fri, 16 Jan 2009 20:27:19 +0000 http://www.douglasderda.com/blog/?p=800#comment-7510 [...] A person’s state of mind is always changing and personally, I don’t always feel ready to launch into some 3-5 paragraph jaunt into my emotional state or the effects of actions around me. Beyond self, there are many who blog about their kids and many who won’t blog about their kids. [...] [...] A person’s state of mind is always changing and personally, I don’t always feel ready to launch into some 3-5 paragraph jaunt into my emotional state or the effects of actions around me. Beyond self, there are many who blog about their kids and many who won’t blog about their kids. [...]

]]> By: douglas http://www.douglasderda.com/blog/2009/01/12/why-my-kid-doesnt-need-a-blog-yet/comment-page-1#comment-7501 douglas Fri, 16 Jan 2009 05:02:54 +0000 http://www.douglasderda.com/blog/?p=800#comment-7501 Wow thanks everyone for the great replies and advise. I think for now Teaspoon will stay offline unless I post some pics. I like the Idea of Flickr and may do that also. I do need some kinda outlet for the randomness I've seen thus far as a dad to be. Eric, I could be up for that! Thanks everyone for your input. I truly appreciate it! Wow thanks everyone for the great replies and advise. I think for now Teaspoon will stay offline unless I post some pics. I like the Idea of Flickr and may do that also. I do need some kinda outlet for the randomness I’ve seen thus far as a dad to be. Eric, I could be up for that!

Thanks everyone for your input. I truly appreciate it!

]]> By: TheJim http://www.douglasderda.com/blog/2009/01/12/why-my-kid-doesnt-need-a-blog-yet/comment-page-1#comment-7489 TheJim Wed, 14 Jan 2009 05:22:39 +0000 http://www.douglasderda.com/blog/?p=800#comment-7489 I've struggled with this same subject. Jack's birth had a public face to it, by virtue of me being a public (relatively speaking) figure within SM. However, I don't maintain any kind of personal blog or site, so it's been easy for me to avoid the conflict of posting intimate details about his existence. I had a public Flickr set open for a while after he was born, but I've since closed that off to only friends/family. I’ve struggled with this same subject. Jack’s birth had a public face to it, by virtue of me being a public (relatively speaking) figure within SM. However, I don’t maintain any kind of personal blog or site, so it’s been easy for me to avoid the conflict of posting intimate details about his existence.

I had a public Flickr set open for a while after he was born, but I’ve since closed that off to only friends/family.

]]> By: mindbling http://www.douglasderda.com/blog/2009/01/12/why-my-kid-doesnt-need-a-blog-yet/comment-page-1#comment-7485 mindbling Wed, 14 Jan 2009 00:02:48 +0000 http://www.douglasderda.com/blog/?p=800#comment-7485 Cheers to you for wrestling with this. I was in the position of needing to learn more about the Internet and 'social media' so I could keep up with jr. I hate to sound like a cliche, but, kids today! I tried the 'protection' mode, where I locked the crap out of everything, denied him access to half of the world, and all that happened was he went down the street to his friends house to see it. I monitor his phone, his web history, and I would monitor his every thought if I could. The fact of the matter is, he is in a whole different place than I was at 13. He knows more, he has seen more, he understands more, and if I don't understand it, too, I can't talk to him about it in a way that matters. While I protect him as much as I can, and his real name (as well as mine), are protected as much as I can, at the end of the day, when any of us decide to live a portion of our lives online we take a risk. For me, it's a risk that pays off. I love having an outlet for my creativity, I love being a part of an amazing community, and I love that in a small way, jr. is, too. He has gained so much from the connections that I have made since I stepped onto the Web. The fact is, whether 80 people read it or 80,000, being a parent is a bond shared by many of us, and I hope that you can find some way to add your voice to those that help the rest of us get through this zany mess that is raising kids. Whatever you decide, Jackson is one lucky kid. Cheers to you for wrestling with this. I was in the position of needing to learn more about the Internet and ’social media’ so I could keep up with jr. I hate to sound like a cliche, but, kids today!

I tried the ‘protection’ mode, where I locked the crap out of everything, denied him access to half of the world, and all that happened was he went down the street to his friends house to see it. I monitor his phone, his web history, and I would monitor his every thought if I could.

The fact of the matter is, he is in a whole different place than I was at 13. He knows more, he has seen more, he understands more, and if I don’t understand it, too, I can’t talk to him about it in a way that matters.

While I protect him as much as I can, and his real name (as well as mine), are protected as much as I can, at the end of the day, when any of us decide to live a portion of our lives online we take a risk.

For me, it’s a risk that pays off. I love having an outlet for my creativity, I love being a part of an amazing community, and I love that in a small way, jr. is, too. He has gained so much from the connections that I have made since I stepped onto the Web.

The fact is, whether 80 people read it or 80,000, being a parent is a bond shared by many of us, and I hope that you can find some way to add your voice to those that help the rest of us get through this zany mess that is raising kids.

Whatever you decide, Jackson is one lucky kid.

]]> By: Eric W http://www.douglasderda.com/blog/2009/01/12/why-my-kid-doesnt-need-a-blog-yet/comment-page-1#comment-7481 Eric W Tue, 13 Jan 2009 04:27:18 +0000 http://www.douglasderda.com/blog/?p=800#comment-7481 Good thoughts. :) I've been thinking of starting a daddy blog soon. If I do, I probably won't be posting any pics. I'll also try to keep identifying details (like full names) to a minimum. I don't expect to have complete privacy or anonymity, so I won't even try. I just don't want my family and friends to discover their personal information is an easy Google search away. It's enough for me, though, if I can avoid being stalked and keep my family quasi-anonymous via obscurity and obfuscation. BTW, all of the pics of my son that I post to Flickr are marked as private and are only viewable by those I designate as family or friend. Some blogging parents leave their kid's pics public, which surprised me, but they have to decide what's best for their own families, just as you're trying to do for yours. Best of luck to you. :) P.S. Maybe we could start a group daddy blog together. :) Good thoughts. :)

I’ve been thinking of starting a daddy blog soon. If I do, I probably won’t be posting any pics. I’ll also try to keep identifying details (like full names) to a minimum. I don’t expect to have complete privacy or anonymity, so I won’t even try. I just don’t want my family and friends to discover their personal information is an easy Google search away. It’s enough for me, though, if I can avoid being stalked and keep my family quasi-anonymous via obscurity and obfuscation.

BTW, all of the pics of my son that I post to Flickr are marked as private and are only viewable by those I designate as family or friend. Some blogging parents leave their kid’s pics public, which surprised me, but they have to decide what’s best for their own families, just as you’re trying to do for yours.

Best of luck to you. :)

P.S. Maybe we could start a group daddy blog together. :)

]]> By: sunshine http://www.douglasderda.com/blog/2009/01/12/why-my-kid-doesnt-need-a-blog-yet/comment-page-1#comment-7480 sunshine Tue, 13 Jan 2009 04:12:07 +0000 http://www.douglasderda.com/blog/?p=800#comment-7480 when the time comes you'll know what to do.. as for now i think you got if figured out.. when the time comes you’ll know what to do.. as for now i think you got if figured out..

]]> By: Woy http://www.douglasderda.com/blog/2009/01/12/why-my-kid-doesnt-need-a-blog-yet/comment-page-1#comment-7479 Woy Tue, 13 Jan 2009 03:09:14 +0000 http://www.douglasderda.com/blog/?p=800#comment-7479 I, like you, have vexed over this particular topic. I've made a decision to write about WoyGirl under very specific circumstances. We prefer it that way. Her growing up, for now, is for the real live world. I, like you, have vexed over this particular topic. I’ve made a decision to write about WoyGirl under very specific circumstances. We prefer it that way. Her growing up, for now, is for the real live world.

]]> By: Paul http://www.douglasderda.com/blog/2009/01/12/why-my-kid-doesnt-need-a-blog-yet/comment-page-1#comment-7477 Paul Tue, 13 Jan 2009 02:03:46 +0000 http://www.douglasderda.com/blog/?p=800#comment-7477 Of course, I realize that you can't ask young children what they think...I guess I would choose against it until they reach an older age as you suggest. Of course, I realize that you can’t ask young children what they think…I guess I would choose against it until they reach an older age as you suggest.

]]> By: Paul http://www.douglasderda.com/blog/2009/01/12/why-my-kid-doesnt-need-a-blog-yet/comment-page-1#comment-7476 Paul Tue, 13 Jan 2009 02:00:49 +0000 http://www.douglasderda.com/blog/?p=800#comment-7476 As someone who will probably be blogging sometime soon, you make some great points. I think it's prudent to think twice before pulling someone into an online world they may not want to be a part of. I think younger people generally have less worry about being "out there" since they've basically grown up with an online identity. However older people (and those of us somewhere in between!) may tend to cherish some form of privacy. I say ask before you expose your friends and family to the world, no matter the intentions. As someone who will probably be blogging sometime soon, you make some great points. I think it’s prudent to think twice before pulling someone into an online world they may not want to be a part of. I think younger people generally have less worry about being “out there” since they’ve basically grown up with an online identity. However older people (and those of us somewhere in between!) may tend to cherish some form of privacy.

I say ask before you expose your friends and family to the world, no matter the intentions.

]]> By: Gina http://www.douglasderda.com/blog/2009/01/12/why-my-kid-doesnt-need-a-blog-yet/comment-page-1#comment-7475 Gina Mon, 12 Jan 2009 23:59:23 +0000 http://www.douglasderda.com/blog/?p=800#comment-7475 I don't post a lot about my kids, but I will post photos and funny stories. But, like Burgh Baby, no nekkids. And I don't use my kids' names or our last name or town (other than the it being in the burgh area). I don’t post a lot about my kids, but I will post photos and funny stories. But, like Burgh Baby, no nekkids. And I don’t use my kids’ names or our last name or town (other than the it being in the burgh area).

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